Thank you for joining me on this journey! This is your first Monday Motivation! I wanted to take this to talk a little bit more about why I chose to create this challenge. For starters, I love personal growth, both for myself and others. After college, I felt really inspired to make a commitment to continue to work on being the best version of myself. Through this self-promise, I realized what my true passion is: Writing, vlogging, and being a resource/example for those who struggle with similar things as I do. However, in this, I have really tapped into a deeply perfectionistic side of myself. I’ve started to use my dreams, where I think I should be by now, and where I want to be as a way to tear myself down. I am trying to remind myself that personal growth isn’t another expectation to bash yourself with. It is a process, with no set expiration date. In the wake of all this, I needed something like BANG that helped motivate me to continue pursuing my goals but also put self-care first.
Why Body Love? Diet culture has a sneaky way of showing up in self-help spaces. I find that this messaging encourages many people to postpone their dreams until they look a certain way or have reached some arbitrary number. The Body Love Principle is intended to combat this tendency. Showing your body love (whether or not you love your body) means taking baby steps towards accepting your body as it is now. Body love is so incredibly hard. Especially when folks of all sizes are bombarded with messaging 24/7 of all the ways our bodies are wrong. People of all sizes, races, and abilities are worthy of love, respect, and acceptance. If you find yourself believing otherwise, question where that message is coming from. Body Love can be addressing/challenging these beliefs in a number of ways. Finding an outfit that makes you feel good. Deleting a social media account you follow that you find you are comparing yourself to. Maybe this means going to therapy. Learning to trust your body will free up more space for you to focus on what truly matters. Our bodies are insanely wise and are constantly giving us signals of what we actually need. Tiredness, hunger, moods, and soreness are not our enemies. They are trying to communicate very real things our body needs. Listen. Our life’s purpose is not to spend the majority of it trying to fight these natural feelings.
Why Appreciation? When you are working towards a goal, it’s so easy to lose sight of what you have now because you are so focused on where you want to be. Learning to appreciate the people, things, and opportunities you have now really helps you to not burn yourself out. Even on your darkest days, I have found there are still little things to be grateful for, even if its something as simple as making having food to eat, clean water to drink, or air to breath. It’s all about rewiring your brain to find blessings among the chaos. When you are constantly looking for opportunities to be grateful for, you may also find opportunities that you didn’t know existed. For example, since I started my journey to healing I joined many facebook pages focus on things like intuitive eating and body acceptance. I’ve also been writing and vlogging about my journey since then as well. However, it only occurred to me recently through my gratitude practice that I could post what I have created to these groups and not only get my story out there but potentially help others who are struggling with similar things, which is the whole reason I started doing all of this in the first place. My hope is that opportunities like this will find their way to you as well.
Why Nothing? The last 3 months of the year tend to be the craziest. Making time to slow down and find some peace is crucial to being able to stay focused on the other principles. It will also help you check in with yourself and listen to your body. I know I am at my happiest and most focused when I am well rested and when I take time to meditate. Making time to rest is so much more important in achieving what you want than people realize. As someone who suffers from chronic fatigue as a symptom of PCOS, I can’t do what I do if I don’t take time to rest. My body will force itself to rest, and then I won’t be able to do anything for the rest of the week. I know when I spend time doing nothing it helps with this. The hard part is not feeling guilty about it. For the next 90 days, I revoke your guilt! You absolutely deserve to do nothing as much as you need to. I know I struggle with this, which is why I have made this challenge only once a week. If you can find time to do it more often, I highly encourage it.
Why Goals? This principle was the founding principle of BANG. I have big dreams for myself. I am assuming if you have joined this group you have dreams for yourself too. The other three principles are there to support this one, to make sure you don’t burn out or lose sight of taking care of yourself. I want to see you achieve your wildest dreams. This is where the fun happens! However, this will only be sustainable if you are staying on top of the other principles as well. It’s also really important that you only choose one goal to be your focus. It can be so easy to overwhelm yourself with all the different things you want to do, especially if you are like me and want the whole world. I encourage you to also choose something you have already been working on, and not something completely new. That is entirely up to you, though. Still only choose one to be your focus for the next three months. You can broaden your focus once the challenge is over. Since my last post, I have actually decided to change what my Goal is going to be. Originally, I put self-care, but for me, it made more sense to make it “creating meaningful content” both because of all the content I will be making with this challenge and also because self-care will be a big part of the other 3 principles. I give you full permission to change your goal at any point during this challenge to what makes the most sense for you.
I know this post is really similar to my first. Not all the Monday Motivations will be. I wanted to make sure to refresh your memory on all of this, as well as provide more insight as to why I am doing this. I have created this challenge as much for myself as I have for all of you. I have no wisdom or credentials to be pursuing this. I don’t want to pretend to be something I am not. I am figuring this all out as I go. I know I needed a challenge like this, and if others can benefit from it that is awesome. If you decide this isn’t for you, that is awesome too. I would much rather you be listening to your intuition and setting boundaries for yourself than to do my challenge to please me. Thank you all for taking the time to read this. I hope you are as excited as I am for this journey! Let’s end 2019 with a BANG!
If you have somehow stumbled on to the post without reading my last, you can find out more about BANG here. You can also join our facebook group here to access my weekly motivations, group discussions, and connect with other like-minded folks.