Welcome to your second Monday Motivation! To be honest, after posting my first Monday Motivation, I wasn’t feeling very motivated. I spent a lot of last week catching up on some much-needed rest, and it paid off! I am feeling fresh and motivated as ever! Enough about rest though, this week’s topic is Support Systems. If you are unfamiliar with the topic, support systems are the people that you trust to provide you emotional support, advice, or just be there for you when you need them.
Obviously, I have created the End With A Bang Group in the hopes that it will become a form of support system for this challenge, However, I think it’s important to identify who those people are in your own life, as well. Support Systems can help you in achieving your goals, but they can also be there for you when things are tough, for example, if you have self-doubt or something important falls through. I know that having a support system has been instrumental for me. An important side note, your support system should not be a stand-in for a therapist, but rather a compliment to therapy and any other constructive coping mechanisms you need.
Up until recently, I kept my support system very small: just my parents and my boyfriend. A few weeks ago, I reconnected with some friends I was close with in high school. We opened up to each other in a way I hadn’t experienced in a long time. I’ve been burned by friendships before, and so I feel like I tend to have trouble letting in even my closest friends. I also have struggled to maintain and make friendships as an adult outside of college. I know I am not the only one who struggles with this. In college, I was constantly surrounded by people my age, who I could make friends or hang out with. Now, my closest friends live a few hours away from me. I have learned that I need to be intentional with those friendships. It has honestly been a difficult transition, but I think I am finally starting to let friends back into my support system and rebuild that trust.
That being said, online groups have been instrumental support systems for through this time as well. Though I think having people in your real life is important, I have found so much help through online forums, especially since not everyone in my real life is on the same journey. Finding other folks who are plus-size, anti-diet, or even have PCOS has made me feel less alone. They’ve been there to answer questions and help me learn. They have also given me an outlet to share my own thoughts. Even a few of you found this group from my posts in groups like these. If you are not in a place in your life where you feel comfortable letting people in your real life into your support system, I highly suggest you seek out groups like these that fit your needs. Here are some of the groups I follow:
What I have found to be helpful is also to be clear about when you need advice and when you need to vent. Also, knowing which friends you trust to be able to do each of these things. I recently read a book that touched on a lot of this called How To Stop Feeling Like Shit, which I recommend, especially if you feel you have habits that are holding you back. Just a warning though, this is not a HAES informed book, so guard your heart here. I still felt it was a valuable read nonetheless, which is why I am recommending it. Essentially finding your support system is about discovering what your needs are and being open to those who matter to you about what those needs are. It is also surrounding yourself with people that you trust. I’d like to end today’s Monday Motivation by asking who your support system is? If you are comfortable, share in the comments on how having a support system has helped you.